Happily Ever After

Tomorrow my grandmother is getting married. She is in love with a man that treats her well and loves her completely. She is 72 and he is 86. His name is Bogie. He was my papa’s uncle. Yes, my grandmother is marrying her deceased husband’s uncle. That idea was strange at first and it took a minute to wrap my head around. He’s my uncle, not hers. They have known each other for nearly 60 years and after my papa died and his wife died they started spending more time together. They soon uncovered their feelings for each other and began to date. I first heard of their relationship in May 2010 and by November they were engaged. I witnessed their relationship for the first time in September and it was truly sweet. Many of our family members think it is weird, strange and “just not right”. And some are going as far as saying that they will not stay at Granny and Uncle Bogie’s house when they visit. Some people feel so strongly about it that they have even refused to comment or acknowledge the relationship. I think that is completely selfish. My feeling is this: I love my Granny enough that I am willing to put my personal feelings aside and give her my support. It doesn’t matter what any of us think anyway, in the big scheme of things. What matters is that they have each found someone that loves and adores them and someone to spend the rest of life with. What more could you want for them? They both have lived full lives and had families and experienced the loss of their spouses. And now, in their old age, they have once again found love. What a wonderful thing! My wish for them is a happy life together full of love and friendship.